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I am a 37 years old mom ,I am a mother of 3 children. I am a Dentist. I try to make every thing perfect. The life I have, the difficulties I face make me anxious.. I like to have a social life; I cannot resist my feeling of being lonely, but I don’t have good social life, & I am lonely.

Monday, August 22, 2005

Stop the hate...

Dear friends
On 20/8/2005 our house was inspected by the American forces , only one of the soldiers misbehaved, I wrote a letter about that to the hot line we have .This line receive any notification about terrorists or doubts in the neighborhood. But we don’t have any other addresses, for complaints.
My uncle advised me to write to the military forces , to the white House , to our government .But I don't have the addresses .
I thought it will be a good Idea to share me my anger &my letter to the hot line:
To whom concerned I believe that we should all gather to reach the goal,& get rid of the terrorists. On Saturday at 20/8/2005 at6 in the afternoon , our neighborhood was inspected by the American military forces .we welcomed every member of the teem . They were polite, and friendly .
They even allowed my husband to accompany them though the house rooms . Except one SOLDIER he was a little bit nervous , he asked my husband not to follow him to the main bed room .
When that soldier finished& every one in the teem finished inspecting the other rooms , we wished them to stay safe & asked them to take care .
They didn’t find any thing illegal .
Then I went to my bed room ,I saw some thing that bothered me a lot . That nervous soldier , crushed the TV remote control , squeezed a tube of gel on the ground & on the bed cover & sheets.
He also powdered two bottle of Baby powder on my clothes in side the closet& on the bed cover .Such irresponsible behavior will change the cooperation of people to anger &hate. My kids used to believe in your soldiers & their courage .When terrorists invalidate Mosul &then you came to help us they were very much amazed. But now after they saw that soldier behavior they got confused &disappointed.
I wanted to write about that to stoop the stupid guys in the military forces from offending the relationship more &more between the Iraqis & the soldiers .I want to stop the hate that is increasing even among the most peaceful Iraqis ,due to such irresponsible behavior, such soldiers affect the reputation of the American military forces ,whom already have enough scandals.
Mama….

13 Comments:

Blogger Lisa, New York said...

Mama,

I'm sorry that happened. It seems like he was angry for some reason and decided to direct his anger at your house by doing something so stupid. His commander should not have let him go into the room alone. It's unfortunate that one soldier can ruin the reputations of all the others who acted correctly. I wish you had seen the name tag of the one soldier who did that because then maybe you could report him to his superiors. I'm sure his commander and all the other soldiers would also be upset at what he did because what he did doesn't only hurt you, it also hurts all the other soldiers who are trying to do the right things.

Did any of the other soldiers see what he did? Did you see any nametags that you could use to report him?

22 August, 2005  
Blogger Lisa, New York said...

Also, I don't think writing to the White House or your government will do any good. They will not see this as a very important thing. No one was hurt or killed.

But writing to (or calling) the commander of the soldiers in Mosul would be good. I'm sure they would care about it. You should print out some of Sunshine's blog too (and the comments here from Americans) so the commander will know that your family has always been friendly to U.S. forces and that many Americans read your blog. Something stupid like this act of this one soldier is damaging to their reputation and they should be made aware of that.

22 August, 2005  
Blogger Kim said...

I think you are directing your frustration in the right way. I am sorry that particular soldier was so rude. I'm sure he must have alot going on too, but it isn't appropriate to take it out on a family such as yours. Stay safe.

22 August, 2005  
Blogger programmer craig said...

Hi Mama... I'm also sorry for what our soldier did. There's no excuse for that. Some people lack empathy, and when they get angry or frustrated, they lash out destructively (like this man did) without thinking about how his actions affect other people. I'm glad that none of the other soldiers behaved that way... that means the command of this unit doesn't approve of this sort of behavior. The fact that he went off on his own to do this, means that the other members of his team wouldn't have tolerated what he did. That's good, in my opinion.

When he gets caught vandalizing or destroying property for no reason (and he will!) he will most likely be sent for counselling and a pyschological evaluation - and an entry will be made about the incident in his service record book (SRB) which will make his remaining time in the Army uncomfortable.

It's unlikely that more action than that would be taken, in a war zone, but it's something at least. My main concern is that somebody who lashes out at people who have done nothing wrong, like he did, may injure somebody in the same way.

Do you know what unit these soldiers were from? Most US Army uniforms have a unit patch on the left shoulder. If you don't know, maybe there is some way you can find out?

Also, if you rememebr any of the names (above the right pocket on their shirts) that will help a lot. I realize that the kevlar vests they wear usually cover the name tag, but maybe you saw one?

A name of anybody in that squad, plus the address and day/time of the incident would be enough for the commanding officer to find out who was responsible. That would probably be required, if you want this soldier punished.

Even if you don't have all that information, a general complaint letter to the commanding officer will probably be taken very seriously. That is where I would direct my complaint, if I was you. He is the man who can correct the situation, and he is the one who cares the most what the soldiers under his command are doing.

If you know what the unit is, I can probably find the name and mailing address of the commanding officer. Also, it is probably posted someplace in your neighborhood?

Also, maybe the CO reads your blog :)

22 August, 2005  
Blogger SKiZM said...

I feel very badly about how that soldier behaved in your home. Some of the soldiers are angry at the situation they are in, and take it out on Iraqis any way they can. It is a shame. Please be brave and stay strong, we will continue to support you. :)

22 August, 2005  
Blogger Lisa, New York said...

Mama,

I wrote this on Sunshine's blog but I'll repeat it here:

The more I think about this, the sadder I get. What the soldier did is not only wrong, of course, but I think it's sad. It reminds of the kind of thing a child who is angry at someone would do. He didn't do anything big and noticeable like break a lamp or hurt someone (because that might get him in trouble). What he did was something small and annoying, just enough to get his frustration out but not big enough that the other soldiers would notice it.

And that's one of the things that makes me sad. The other soldiers probably left your house thinking they had a nice, pleasant visit and everyone was happy. They probably didn't even know what this other soldier did. Think about it. If he wanted to, he could have done something big that they would notice but the things he did (alone in a room, breaking a remote control, spilling powder in a closet) are little, sneaky things that he could do behind their backs.

As Sara said, we are not excusing what he did but it seems to me he is very upset, sad and angry about something (maybe a friend was killed, maybe he's just tired of being attacked, maybe he wants to go home). And he is acting out his frustration in these little, sneaky ways.

It would be good to find out who he is because if he did it in your house, he is probably doing it in other houses. And the other soldiers who are with him are probably unaware of how he is ruining their reputations. But it would also be good to find him because I think he needs help, not just punishment. He needs to talk to someone about his fears and anger because he is expressing it in the wrong way.

I will try, through other military blogs, to email someone who may know this unit in Mosul. In the meantime, you should print out this blog and write a letter to the commander of the forces in Mosul.

I think this soldier should be made to apologize to you (and he should also apologize to his fellow soldiers, because he is hurting them too) and then he should receive psychological help.

22 August, 2005  
Blogger Um Haleema said...

Mama,
I'm very sorry to hear what this soldier did in your home. I hope that you find out who he was and he is punished. It breaks my heart that Sunshine was so disillusioned by that awful man!

22 August, 2005  
Blogger Jack Bennett said...

Mama, I echo what others have said. It is Iraqis like you who are not hostile to them that the US Army should be trying to win over and yet it takes just one bad soldier to ruin their image in people's minds. Most soldiers are not like that.

I would do what others have recommended and try to find out who the American commander in Mosul is or who was the commander in charge of that inspection, they would be the ones to file a complaint with and they would have the power to discipline the bad soldier. If your home is inspected again, you could also bring up this incident with the commander of that inspection. No one should have their belongings destroyed or their house made a mess because one bad person has a bad attitude.

24 August, 2005  
Blogger dancewater said...

Mama,
what that soldier did was beyond rude. I hope you have a name or unit (like other's have said) and that we all get a chance to complain to somebody about this.

It is totally unacceptable. He needs to have some consequences for his actions.

25 August, 2005  
Anonymous G Money said...

Sorry this happened, 1 bad apple spoils the bunch. I'm sure you have a similar Iraqi saying. Statistically, we have 140,000 soldiers there, if just 5% have no manners or are not honorable, thats 7,000 soldiers..

I understand they usually have cards they hand out as well, I guess in this case they didn't, it would help to report to Local Commanders so they could at least try to ensure politeness and proper respect etc.

26 August, 2005  
Anonymous RG said...

You probably have seen people who said that America helping Iraq is wrong. Some of those people may be soldiers. As you saw, most soldiers believe they are doing the right thing helping you. But there obviously was one who wants to hurt you in some rude way and does not want to help.

I hope they catch him.

Here is a story of good soldiers who are trying to help get the bad guys. These soldiers are in your home town, Mosul.

Michael Yon

Here is Michael Yon's email
address.

MichaelYonIraq@hotmail.com

He is in our town with the soldiers and he will help you find out who this person was.

27 August, 2005  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mama, I believe efforts are underway to try to prevent this sort of thing from happening in the future. We can't change the past, and things will never be perfect, but you have helped change the future by reporting this problem, I think. Folks with the military in Mosul seem to take it quite seriously.

28 August, 2005  
Anonymous Dave said...

Their should be an office which I think is called a RCP, located adjacent to a coalition base to report such behavior. This office is a liaison point between Iraqi officials and U.S. armed forces. Their were a few RCP offices in Baghdad that I saw and they were accessible to Iraqi citizens. I left Iraq in April and the office name had changed twice since it's inception. Anyway the guy is an immature jerk and what he does not realize is that he not only increases the risk to himself but his fellow comrades for a cheap rise. I wish you well. Dave

07 September, 2005  

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